The Seventh Hermetic Law: Gender, Money, and the Imbalance We’re Living In

There are universal laws that govern everything in existence—whether we are aware of them or not.

These are known as the Hermetic Laws. Ancient principles that have been understood for thousands of years and are now, in many ways, being echoed and validated through modern science.

There are seven of them:

1) The Law of Mentalism

2) The Law of Correspondence

3) The Law of Vibration

4) The Law of Polarity

5) The Law of Rhythm

6) The Law of Cause and Effect

7) The Law of Gender

Each one builds upon the other, but today I want to focus on the Seventh:

The Law of Gender.

“Gender is in everything; everything has its Masculine and Feminine Principles.”

This isn’t about male versus female, and it’s not about outdated roles or control. It’s about energy.

Everything in the universe operates through both masculine and feminine forces.

The feminine is intuitive, creative, nurturing, and flowing.

The masculine is directive, structured, protective, and action-oriented.

Both are necessary. Both are powerful.

But they are not meant to be carried equally, all the time, by one person.

And this is where things begin to feel off.

What I’m Seeing in My Clients - and the World - Every Day

In both the world we live in and in my work with clients, I keep seeing the same pattern.

Women are holding everything together.

They’re making the money, managing the home, raising the children, planning the daily activities, remembering every detail, carrying the emotional weight of the relationship… and still trying to remain soft, open, and connected.

And many of them are exhausted.

Now, I want to pause here and say something that matters.

Not all women are in this position because a man isn’t stepping up.

Many women are here because there was no one else.

They were left to do it alone—through divorce, loss, abandonment, or simply life unfolding in a way they never expected. They became both the provider and the nurturer out of necessity, not choice.

And when you’ve lived like that for years, it doesn’t just turn off. It becomes who you are.

So this isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness.

Because even when a partner does come into their life, many women don’t know how—or feel safe enough—to put anything down.

Let’s Talk About Money Through the Hermetic Law

Because this is where the imbalance becomes very real.

According to Hermetic Law, money is energy—and it is inherently directive, activating, and outward-moving in nature.

And by its nature, it carries a masculine charge. It moves things forward. It creates structure. It provides stability. It gets things done.

When a woman is holding the full weight of financial responsibility, she is living deeply in her masculine energy.

Again, she is absolutely capable of doing this.

But capability does not always mean alignment.

Because when she is constantly in that state of doing, providing, planning, and holding everything together… there is very little space left for her to rest, to receive, to soften.

And over time, something starts to wear down.

Later, I’ll share a simple way to help you see this more clearly.

A True Story That Says It All

I have a client who allowed me to share her story because she knows how many women will see themselves in it.

In her earlier relationships, she was with men who were financially successful. They provided everything—the lifestyle, the exotic car, the travel, the home. She was free to be in her feminine energy, to create, to express, to simply exist without the pressure of holding everything together.

But she wasn’t truly seen. She was valued for what she represented and how she looked, not for who she was. And over time, that left her feeling empty and, at times, mistreated.

So when she met someone who genuinely connected with her—who saw her, understood her, met her on a deeper level—it felt different in all the right ways.

There was just one challenge. At the time, he was struggling financially.

She didn’t fully realize how unstable things were until she found herself in a position where she was expected to cover everything.

And she resented it immediately.

It threw her completely out of balance, but she told herself it was temporary. That she would only have to do the heavy lifting for a little while. That things would shift.

But weeks turned into months. Months turned into years.

And during that time, she became the one who made everything happen. The one who carried the weight. The one who ensured everything moved forward.

She was living fully in her masculine energy—out of necessity, not desire.

And at the same time, she was trying to stay soft. To stay open. To stay feminine.

It was too much.

She became exhausted. The tension started to build. Arguments followed—not because they didn’t love each other, but because something deeper was out of alignment.

Eventually, his situation changed. He found stable, successful work and began making more than she did. Financially, they were both in a good place.

But the dynamic didn’t shift.

He expected everything to be split evenly. Financially, he expected her to meet him in the same masculine energy he was operating in.

But nothing else had shifted.

She was still the one planning, organizing, managing the home, and carrying the emotional weight of the relationship—while now also paying half.

When she came to me, she wasn’t just tired.

She was depleted.

Not because she wasn’t capable—but because she was no longer showing up in just one role.

She was being expected to be everything.

Why This Isn’t About “Fair”

We’ve been taught that relationships should be equal.

But equal and balanced are not the same thing.

Balance isn’t about splitting everything down the middle. It’s about understanding how energy flows between two people and allowing that flow to support both of them.

When the feminine energy in a relationship is constantly in motion—constantly providing, organizing, planning, and holding structure—while also being expected to nurture, soften, and emotionally carry the connection… something begins to break down.

Not immediately.

But over time.

What We’re Being Shown

If you really start paying attention, you’ll see this dynamic reflected everywhere.

Even in the movies we show our children.

In The Incredibles, the mother is stretched—literally and figuratively—holding everything together, while the father fumbles his way through finding his place again.

In Shrek, there’s humor in the imbalance, but the underlying message still plays into the same dynamic—men as slightly lost, women as the grounding force.

We laugh. We don’t question it. But we absorb it.

And it doesn’t stop with children’s movies. It shows up everywhere.

In television, where the man is often portrayed as immature or incapable, while the woman carries the intelligence, the responsibility, and the emotional depth of the relationship.

In advertising, where women are shown doing it all—running businesses, raising children, managing homes—while still being expected to look effortless and put together.

In social media, where independence and self-sufficiency in women are celebrated—which, in many ways, is beautiful and necessary—but often without any conversation about the cost of living in that constant state of output.

And at the same time, we see a quiet normalization of men who are disconnected, passive, or unsure of their role—almost as if strong, grounded masculine energy has been softened into something less defined.

Over time, this becomes programming.

Not something we consciously choose, but something we begin to accept as normal.

And when that becomes the standard, we stop questioning why so many relationships feel strained… or why so many women feel like they are carrying more than they were ever meant to hold on their own.

The Other Side of This Conversation

There is another side to this that deserves to be heard.

For many men, the desire is not to withdraw or to avoid responsibility—but to build something together.

To feel like a team.

To move through life with a sense of shared purpose, shared goals, and shared contribution.

From that perspective, it’s not about keeping score or avoiding providing. It’s about unity.

About creating a life where both people are invested—not just emotionally, but practically.

Where what comes in—time, energy, resources—is contributing to something that belongs to both of them.

And for many men, when the expectation becomes that their role—and their value—is defined solely by how much they provide financially, something begins to feel off on their end as well.

It can feel like pressure instead of partnership.

Like they are being measured rather than met.

Like the emotional and relational ways they show up are not being fully seen.

And that matters.

Because a man who feels unseen… will not show up fully either.

And this is where the conversation becomes deeper than money. Because this is not about one person giving more or the other giving less.

It’s about understanding how masculine and feminine energy naturally want to move—and how those energies can support each other instead of working against one another.

Coming Back to Balance

The Law of Gender reminds us that both masculine and feminine energies are always present—and both are required for creation.

But they are meant to work together.

Not compete.

Not overcompensate.

And not be carried entirely by one person.

There is a Cherokee proverb that speaks beautifully to this balance:

“A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with Source.

A man’s highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed.”

Whether you take that literally or symbolically, the message is clear.

We are meant to support each other in a way that allows both energies to exist fully.

Not in competition.

Not in resistance.

But in balance.

A Way to See This More Clearly

If any part of this resonated with you, you may already have a sense of where imbalance is showing up.

But sometimes, it helps to see it more clearly.

I’ve created a simple Relationship Energy Assessment Quiz to help you understand how masculine and feminine energy may currently be expressed—and carried—within your relationship.

It’s not about right or wrong.

It’s about awareness.

👉 Take the Relationship Energy Assessment Quiz

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A Way Forward

This is where the real shift begins.

Not in blame. Not in pointing fingers. But in honest conversation.

Conversations that are rooted in love, not defense.

Listening with the intention to understand—not just to respond.

Because we are all shaped by something.

By our families.

By our upbringing.

By what we were shown in relationships growing up.

By what we see in media, in leadership, in the world around us.

We are all carrying programming. But awareness gives us the ability to choose differently.

To come back to the Law of Gender—not as a rigid rule, but as a natural rhythm.

When a woman feels supported and protected, it becomes much easier for her to soften… to nurture… to return to the parts of herself that may have been put aside just to survive.

And when a man steps into his masculine energy with intention, he doesn’t lose anything.

He becomes more.

More grounded.

More purposeful.

More powerful in how he shows up—not just for himself, but for the relationship.

And in that space…

Both people are able to meet each other more fully.

Not from exhaustion…but from alignment.

And from that place—everything begins to feel lighter.

Wishing you a life that feels balanced, harmonious, and deeply aligned,

Karin