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The Power of Words: How Our Speech Shapes Lives

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me" is a saying that many of us have heard growing up. However, this old adage couldn't be further from the truth. Words carry a profound energy that can lift others up or bring them down. They have the power to heal, inspire, and create, but they can also wound, discourage, and destroy. Understanding the importance of the words we use is essential for fostering healthier relationships and a more compassionate world.

The Energy of Words

Words are not just mere sounds or scribbles on a page; they are vibrations of energy. When we speak, we transmit energy that influences the emotional and psychological state of the listener. Positive words can elevate someone's mood, boost their confidence, and motivate them to achieve great things. Conversely, negative words can lead to feelings of sadness, inadequacy, and despair.

The Impact on Children

Using words of kindness to a child can help them grow into happy and confident adults.

Children, particularly those under the age of seven, are especially susceptible to the words they hear. At this stage, their brains are like sponges, absorbing everything around them. They believe what they are told, and these words become their truth. If a child is constantly told they are smart, kind, and capable, they will grow up with a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. On the other hand, if they are frequently criticized, belittled, or told they are not good enough, these negative words can become deeply ingrained, shaping how they see themselves for the rest of their lives.

Lasting Effects into Adulthood

Even as adults, the impact of words remains significant. Hurtful words can trigger old wounds and childhood traumas, leading to emotional pain and psychological distress. This is why it is crucial to be mindful of how we speak to others, as our words can either contribute to healing or perpetuate harm.

Mindful Communication: The Three Gates

Before we speak, it is wise to consider our words through the lens of three essential questions: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

1. Is it true?

Ensuring that what we say is truthful is fundamental to building trust and integrity in our relationships. Spreading false information or making unfounded accusations can cause unnecessary harm and conflict.

2. Is it kind?

Kindness should be at the heart of our communication. Even when delivering constructive criticism or addressing difficult topics, we can choose words that are compassionate and considerate of the other person's feelings.

3. Is it necessary?

Sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is to say nothing at all. If our words do not add value or serve a positive purpose, it may be best to remain silent. This helps avoid unnecessary negativity and allows space for more meaningful interactions.

Speak only word of kindness to spread happiness.


The words we choose to use have a lasting impact on those around us. By being mindful of the energy we transmit through our speech, we can contribute to a more positive and supportive environment for everyone. Let us strive to use our words wisely, remembering that they hold the power to shape lives, build self-esteem, and foster a culture of kindness and understanding.

Many Blessings,

Karin Wolfe, HHP, CBS

Owner, Firefly Within

Karin Wolfe, Holistic Health Practitioner, Certified Biofeedback Specialist, Owner of Firefly Within

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